What does modern commitment mean to you?
In our busy, interconnected but independent lives, commitment and happiness take on different meanings. We assume that love will prevail, and forget that relationships don't just "work." We believe that love should live on its own, without effort and attention, like a cactus in a desert. Unfortunately this isn't the case.
This is where I come in!
What exactly is the "work" involved in relationships? Do we wait for something bad to happen and then try to "fix" it? Are there practical things that can be done along the way? Or do we think, "That won't happen to us. We are different. Our love for each other is so strong that it won't be work."
We can find out together.
I believe discussion about sex, marriage, and long-term relationships can occur without the smut, scandal, and negative talk topics related to sex can bring.
About My Process
Your healing is on your terms. We can meet individually or together with your partner. Of course, counseling varies from client to client, but my process typically entails the following:
- First, we will establish your relationship dynamics and investigate the conflicts therein.
- Then, we will move to the explorative. Both parties must have the space to express their rightful emotions. As a therapist, it is important for me to slow down the emotions and questions, and push against society's need to demand an instant decision for the couple's future.
- Finally, we explore meanings and motivations, asking questions that promote growth versus finality. This empowers the couple to show interest in caring and understanding each other's experience. The work doesn't end here—this is only the beginning of a potential new contract in your partnership.
Bring back the Spark.
Take the important next step and schedule your first appointment!